Kim Hyun Joong… [article] ULTIMATE LOVER


By LazerKim:            This article was one of those that I couldn’t locate for months and one of the fan omma was able to locate it for me. Thanks. I still got five more articles to post to complete all 100 articles or a little over a hundred, then I’ll start with something else for you to keep forever. And something you can keep to remember about Kim Hyun Joong. If I may not be able to write articles as daily dose, please forgive me because I will be doing something more precious than an article. I’ll let you know when I start with my project, I won’t just disappear. Don’t worry I’ll be back.

Isn’t this a good timing, the new OST (If You Like Me)  of Hyun Joong was finally released and I’m sure you have listened to it and saved it in your playlist……go listen to it while you read this article, reminisce how Hyun Joong was in his past love as he shared it with us…

 Kim Hyun Joong, a perfectly handsome guy talks about his first love, his most precious three year relationship ended and his past girlfriends practically dump him. Would you believe that? Well who wouldn’t believe a guy who is candidly honest? But where are these girls? Were they listening when Hyun Joong talks about them on talk shows? And what may be their reasons for dumping somebody like Kim Hyun Joong? Let’s see how these question be answered by Hyun Joong hmself and you’ll be the judge if Hyun Joong can be an ultimate lover.

As time goes I’m getting to know Hyun Joong better, and that wasn’t too difficult because his life is an open book to his fans. As he always say he wants to live a normal life, he doesn’t like sneaking around and hiding himself in his closet since he has nothing to hide to begin with. For him, even his personal relationship is a natural matter that happens to everybody. And his openness gained respect from media and his fans that no one brag him about it.

As I watch his video clips of interviews and talk shows, he was quite open about his personal relationship with girls. But one thing had caught my attention, every time he was asked about his love, he’s consistently mentioning one specific girl he met during high school days.


At a talk show Night after Night, he told his story about a girl he first had seen in a restaurant, whom  he fell in love at first sight. He visited the restaurant practically everyday for two years, with hopes to see the girl. He did saw her two or three times, before he finally got the courage to talk with her. Incidentally, a friend of his was also interested with the same girl. Hyun Joong and his friend agreed to propose to the girl, and whoever wins they would still be friends, with no hard feelings.

Hyun Joong ‘s friend made the first move but failed. Hyun Joon called the girl for the first time through the telephone via a collect call !!  Gosh…wouldn’t you get turned off??  But then Hyun Joong made it, he invited the girl for a movie and the girl agreed, and started dating.

The relationship did last for three year, they broke off after his debut with SS501. The host of the show commented as “actors do break off after they debut and that’s how it is in showbiz”. But Hyun Joong relayed, “we became further apart as time passed after my debut. Becoming an entertainer wasn’t the reason, because we reached the stage where we had to separate, so we broke up”.

In another talk show with Lee Sora, Hyun Joong was asked about the same question, and he related similar story about his love which lasted three years. I was assuming he was talking about the same girl.


Then I came across a video clip, it’s some kind of a private interview as he was talking in front of a private video cam. The video was taken two years after his debut with SS501, I think it was taken after he had home from Japan. Hyun Joong talked about his relationship, as he related and translated as:

“I had a girl friend till we released the first album. Although two persons love each other, they often have to break up. Then I thought for the first time we could break up regardless of love. Since it ended nothing matters now.  But my love that time was I think a real love. When I broke up with my first love, I realize if I could choose between work and love , I would choose love”.

I felt a pinch in my heart, and I was watching him talk, can’t control my teary eyes, something is making this guy mighty unhappy. Apparently, he chose work, otherwise he won’t be with us. I’m not curious who the girl was, but I wonder where could this girl be? I wonder if she ever watched that video which is at YouTube. While watching that video, I was so touched on how Hyun Joong disclosed his emotions. From that video he actually looked sad…..although it’s in the past, I couldn’t help to think, this is how he was when feeling gloomy and lonely.


The time when Hyun Joong was busy promoting his first album, he mentioned in one radio station that his last relationship lasted a month before his launching of Breakdown. He said his girlfriend dumped him after he called her by the name of his past girlfriend!!  Well, that’s at least funny, and looked like he wasn’t affected by the break up, unlike the video I watched him sad to be talking about his love.

Where are these girls? Do they know whom they’re dumping? In Singapore during his promotion of The Face Shop, Hyun Joong was asked if he has a girlfriend or if he is currently in a relationship. And he replied, none.

The reporter asked Hyun Joong “when you were doing Playfull Kiss, did you ever thought of wanting to fall in love again”?

Hyun Joong replied  ”I could not think of falling in love, because I was busy memorizing my lines in the drama”!!

Gosh….what a way to answer such sensitive question!!! Hyun Joong just outwardly spill out his 4D!!


Oh yes, I remember, and may I just add, at the same event on that interview in Singapore, the lady reporter asked Hyun Joong this question “What was the best kiss you ever had”? Hyun Joong said, “I can not compare a kiss because I do not have a girlfriend”.  I find the question a bit silly, but maybe, just maybe, if Hyun Joong is a playboy type, he could probably respond to that lady reporter outwardly  what may be Hyun Joong’s best kiss!!! But then Hyun Joong is a decent modest type of guy.

I’m not trying to create an image what Hyun Joong ought to be base on how I want him to be. But base on the interviews with Hyun joong that I have been watching, I don’t think he’s a playboy at all. He’s not even choosy in selecting his ideal girl. A super model isn’t even his preference, he goes for average pretty girl and someone who could also be his friend and buddy.

Hyun Joong said, he would tell his fans if he’s in a relationship, but he’ll never gonna say who. He said “at this time I”ll probably won’t be in a relationship because of my work commitments, it would only be a pity to my girlfriend if she’ll always be left out because of my busy schedule”.  Then he said, “other actors or artists can have a relationship at the same time with their career, but for me, I’m not that good as an artist, I still need to fill up what is missing in my ability, and I just can’t do both at the same time”. Hyun Joong mentioned this during his interview in Bali.

Many of you had watched the TV reality show “We Got Married”, that was not acting, there was no script only a camera and Hyun Joong just have to be himself for real. It may not be his 100 percent as Kim Hyun Joong because of the presence of the cameras, but somehow you can justify how he was in having a partner. Although he admitted he felt a bit awkward because Hwang Bo was his six year senior, and he couldn’t help but respect her that much to call her Ya, as how he normally calls his girlfriend.

Men’s ideal girls are just but ideal, same as Hyun Joong, he may have a lot of ideally perfect girl for himself. And that’s not even difficult for him to acquire, with his qualities, any Miss Universe or beauty queen would die for a lover like Hyun Joong. But it doesn’t work that way. Love comes to our lives in such a mysterious way, that it just happen, you suddenly fall in love even you’re not seeking for it. And sometimes we do fall for someone who’s unexpected. That’s the same with Hyun Joong, in fact he also falls at first sight.

At this time, Hyun Joong is at the peak of his career. He was being truthful when he said, he couldn’t bring himself to any relationship at this time because he is committed to the people who expect from him whom he doesn’t want to fail. As he said, he still needs to work on what is missing in his ability as an artist. I think this is a matured outlook of a grown man who’s aiming for his goals and unselfish desires to make others happy.

Hyun Joong is a very ideal man, he may be a type of man who can hardly express himself but he shows his affection in so many different ways that a girl can be surprised on how he can just make you laugh out of nowhere and surprise you with his thoughtfulness. He can’t stand heated argument or confrontation because he’s a peace loving person. In time that you are troubled and sad he’ll stay at your side to comfort you. He’s very sensitive but he’ll never show you how hurt he is.

Hyun Joong has a dream to fulfill as his own personal happiness has to take the backseat for a while.Hyun Joong will eventually find the real love of his life, only at this time, he’s passion for music and his untainted love for his fans comes first. As he accomplish what he wants for himself, then I would want him to search for the girl of his dream whom he can share his life with.

I truly believe Hyun Joong has a soft spot in his heart that belongs only to his fans. In so many event transpired last year, he had shown his caring, loving, and sincerity as Kim Hyun Joong an ultimate lover to his fans.

                                                                                         LazerKim here writing


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15 thoughts on “Kim Hyun Joong… [article] ULTIMATE LOVER

  1. Sometimes just looking at HJ brings tears to my eyes and I sit and weep. There’s something about him, about the depths of his eyes and I swear I have see his soul in them. It’s beautiful. I can hardly stand looking but I must. I am compelled by some force to gaze upon this man, and pour my heart in his direction. Only someone with the same experience will understand this feeling – but I think here is the place those people would be.
    This has been such a hard two and a half years. With about 30 hours remaining until his release from the Army, I hope he takes some time with his family to heal up. Yet we are all waiting for HJ to sing us another song from his heart, and music will help to mend his heart. I am praying they do another DNA test. Praying that justice is served and that HJ is vindicated. Thank you for providing the perfect place for me to say these things. In my opinion too, he is the “Ultimate Lover”.

  2. hey, i luv kim hyun joong…i never felt this feeling b4..dis is only bcoz of him dat i felt dis beautiful feeling(love) in my lyf..i luv korea nw,its culture,koreans…dey r so sweet,respectful,luving …lyk ppl in imaginary world…i am learning korean so dat in future i have hope dat i vll visit korea n meet him.. he is my 1st n last luv…may b he vll marry or luv any of his fan…so m trying hard in my studies so dat i vll b able to work in korea…he is a dream 4 me which i want to fulfill…i luv u alot…<3

  3. HEY KIM
    I wish i could be ur side ,u dont know how much i luv u. i always dream about you but my dream cant be true so all the best for your life .Oneday you will fine a perfect girl .takecare ..good luck n may god bless you n be happy forever but in my next lifetime i want to be ur wife n i m great fan of urs from india

  4. Hello LazerKim,
    Passing by for my daily dose of my article reading.. Still got 3 old articles to read to be able to say I have read them all. Today I won’t comment on the article cause most of me and my love for KHJ and how much I want to see him happy and succesful you already know…Only one thing I do ask myself of those girls too.. do they follow his career, do they support him? Well sorry I said I won’t talk about it.. 😦 Just came cause I’m feeling sick lately (to much going and coming from the hospital, but I’ll survive) and sad at the same time.. yesterday was a day that I never thought I was going to see or read in the blog.. it really got me depressed it’s like I got hit in my heart. My mind was thinking of you at the moment!

    I understand you are going to be doing a new project and won’t be able to write everyday..sad but I understand! I can’t wait to see what is going to be the project so surprise us..

    I have also got the new song playing all day in my playlist, OMG is so beautiful!..

    I read this today in the web will love to share with all:

    I Do A Lot Of Thinking Before I Go To Sleep
    i play scenes in my head
    i practice the things i want to say
    i make plans for the next day
    and hope that all will be great
    i have endless “what IFs”
    i think of all the people i miss
    i ask myself a lot of questions
    to see why things are like this
    i pray for the ones I love
    i bless the ones that care
    and give God thanks for all that we share!

    See you around please keep me posted on the new project and new articles I’ll be coming around everyday… For me you know that he is my SUN in the morning to make my day better and my shinning STAR in the night to guide me!!!


  5. reading this article while i was washing my clothes i got teary eyed.. i was asking myself why the tears??? what is it.. what’s wrong? is it because it seems like i could feel his pain during those time.. its like i was warped to those time where he was feeling such pain and sadness and i just feel sad 😦 but since i was washing my clothes, i just brush the emotions of and continue washing my clothes..

    now i have finished washing and concentrated on this article while listening to his new song “If You’re like me”.. i couldn’t understand myself more why coz i find myself now crying, and i just can’t stop the tears freely flowing… as i repeatedly listen to the song.. why does my tears keeps on flowing freely 😦 oh.. his voice goes deep in my soul, deep in my heart… what is it? what is it? what’s wrong with me? huh.. i couldn’t understand the lyrics of the song, but thanks to a fan named ms. lina for lovingly sharing the lyrics 🙂 i was able to understand the true meaning of the song.. and as i read it, more tears flows.. the message goes deep in my heart… writing this comment right now is a bit blurry coz of the tears that’s forming and keep flowing in my eyes.. God, he sang it beautifully that it feels like he’s dedicating the song to someone whom he loves so much.. someone so special to him.. gosh…

    God, to borrow the line from Hwang Bo, i really wish for your love to be always happy oh my Kim Hyun Joong,.. i really wish that you will find a woman who will truly understand you and love you unconditionally, who will stay by your side no matter what.. your love is rare, so pure and honest.. i really wish that one day you’ll find that love that you deserve.. you have so much love to give, i hope and pray that it will be reciprocated more than what you give..

    Oh God, i really pray that you will give Hyun Joong the woman that he truly deserves, who will love him unconditionally, pure and complete honesty.. who will stay by his side no matter what..

    I believe that there are things that we need to do for ourselves, so i pray, when Hyun Joong finally fulfilled the things that he needs to do for himself, i so wish for that woman to come in his life at the right time 🙂 he truly deserve complete and un-ending happiness with the woman he loves 🙂

    Kim Hyun Joong aja! fighting!


  6. “I got one negative comment yesterday, my first one”

    It was never intended to be negative and if it upset you than I apologize but only for that. Never in my comment I criticized you with anything written in the article. As you mentioned in the article yourself – this is the common tactic for mass media and critics to start comparing artists. That is exactly the reason why I left my own opinion why I don’t like and see comparisons with others. Because I am tired to see such comparisons in many sites and defending takes not only time but nerves.
    In order to understand how special HJ is, everyone has to see it themselves.

    “she claimed which I hardly believe, to be Henecian, Triple S, and that Hyun Joong is Only One in her heart, but she likes other artists which I think made her upset by the comparison I did in that article”

    I was taken aback with such words coming from you. I wrote couple of times before that I liked your articles and spreading good words about HJ to new fans is good, sometimes leaving my name, sometimes not. So to see this pure conjecture regarding my attitude towards HJ hurt my feelings a lot. I don’t want to get personal and leave it you.

    Like for many others he was the one who brought me to Kpop world though BoF. Since watching him there I became mesmerized by him, totally bewitched, its like a spell. Then like for others surfing began. It’s funny to realize that at first I couldn’t even memorize his name properly because it sounded so different. Then Playful kiss, SS501, then shows, concerts, etc. At the time HJ was already in KeyEast but was in silent mood before his comeback as a solo artist. I thought that I couldn’t get more fascinated by him than I was but surely I was wrong because when he came back with Break down I was swept by second wave of absolute love. Then second comeback in terms of music was even better because it suited my personal musical taste better.

    I came to your blog and started to read your articles not because I don’t know HJ. I watched 99% of everything that has anything even remotely related to him – all his shows, interviews, starting from M!Pick when he was explaining the meaning of his name till this very day – newly released OST. I translated many interviews because we have our own HJ dedicated website. So it’s not the facts that I was interested here but how you could spread your personal love for him to others.

    As I said he was the first one who brought me to Kpop, Korea, TV shows, completely different world and I am grateful for that to him. Because of him I got to know many other artists and started to like them, respect them, appreciate them. But the point here is that I NEVER COMPARE HIM TO THEM. Because what I feel towards him is not liking him, respecting him, appreciating him – it’s so much BIGGER. He is the center of my own universe, my thoughts before going to bed and after waking up. He is someone who could only be invented but there here is in flesh. He is the one who brings joy and smile just by looking at him, makes me wholeheartedly proud by his actions and gives hope that everything is possible.

    I follow news of some artists, but I don’t hunt for them every day like I do for HJ. I don’t idolize anybody, not other artists, nor HJ. Idolizing is something different from my understanding – worshiping or idealizing. I look at HJ as objective as I can – seeing his deficiencies, strong qualities, his human side and all of that makes him who he is and I love that.

    The longest comment so far by me.
    For new KHJ fans: I strongly recommend to read this blog – for providing information about KHJ on different issues it is quite useful.
    For LazerKim – thanks for previous articles and good bye.

    • Ms Anonymous may i refresh your memory, this was what you wrote in my comment box from article “Closer Look”… here as follows…
      Ms Anonymous:
      I don’t comparisons with other artists – it’s just no use. Aside from Hyun Joong I like many other artists in K-pop and when I see their music videos, live concerts or TV shows – many of them also have great personalities, strong voices, public appeal and their own unique charisma. I also quite often listen to idol groups or see their performances, and I must say some of their stages just absolutely amazing and I would love to see Hyun Joong standing there and perform. When I saw mixed concerts like MAMA, several Gayo concerts at the end of the year – I really liked a lot what I’ve seen, so my point here is with all due respect I wouldn’t never compare KHJ with other idol groups and as you say in your concluding words – he is beyond comparable.

      Just to be clear I am Henecia and Triple S for some time and KHJ stays in my heart as the Only One but nevertheless I like many other artists out there and appreciate their talents, hard work and their own different styles.

      From LZ: From the article Closer Look I was simply reacting from a KHJ’s critic as he was being compared from other idols. My question, if his critics has the right to compare him to other idols even without basis, then why can’t I have the same right to compare him too??? Yes I said it he’s beyond comparable that’s why i clearly stated in that article my basis of comparison.

      Good luck to you and have a good day ahead of you!! Thank you and God bless..

  7. I do like him very much that I want him to have the perfect love in his life. I believe he will find true love for him and be happy forever, because the love he has given to us is more than enough that I can keep that in my heart forever.

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